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Before getting into details of how it is to home school your kids and what might be positive and negative aspects of it allow me to explain how I’ve decided to become a private teacher to my angels :)

Not long after Cindy started kindergarten she came to me in tears saying she doesn’t want to go to school anymore and didn’t want to take her bag at all. After inquiring with her for a little while she said that the day before another girl told her she was ugly and said that no matter how cute her outfit is, she will always be ugly. I hugged her and thought what my next move would be.

angrySo after talking her into coming to school with me and promising I will take care of it I went to speak to her teacher. She agreed that such behavior is unacceptable and proceeded to lecture class about how important it is to be nice. But the name calling continued and talking with the girls parents didn’t help at all. One day as I came to pick up Cindy she was all in tears, obviously crying for a while. As I asked what happened she didn’t respond but just showed her little toy horse, its stuffing has fallen out.

I was furious and asked her who did it, she pointed at the girl who was still sitting at her desk, coloring her book. As I approached her I kept wondering how could such small kids be so mean. I knelled down to her and told her she have to stop being mean towards Cindy, that she is hurting her feelings.

She looked in my eyes, and laughed.

I’m was an teacher before Amanda came into my life and became a housewife. I was so upset after that point that I didn’t care about other options and said I was going to school her at home, for a little while. Well as it turns out home schooling is doing great as you will see in my next blog post. Cindy is very happy, smart and loves to socialize.

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As this is my first blog post I would like to begin by explaining how we’ve decided became All Knowledge Adopters.

John and I were attempting to have a child for about two and a half years but to no avail. We had discussed being foster parents, but hadn’t started the process until one day we got a call from a friend of ours asking if we would take her grandchild that was in state custody. We were lucky and the state certified us as special certification foster parents. We had to fill out a lot of paperwork, get fingerprinted and start the home study process before the kids could move in but things moved pretty fast.

As little Cindy entered our lives John and I started going to bed every night smiling, we finally had a family. At first everything was new and a little bit difficult for all of us, but as more time passed the closer and better relationship we built. I will never forget the first time she called me her mommy :)

After quite a while Department of Human Resources gave us full custody of her. Shockingly enough it was a single sheet of paper and signing it felt just so… indescribable.  Our little Cindy was ours food good now and there was no one to come between us.

We’ve kept very close contact with her grandparents as they were our friends and sometimes we would visit her parents too. She loved seeing them but they had some personal problems I would rather not go into. Our little Cindy has two mommies, two daddies and a looooot of grandparents. And she loves spending time with all of them. She is shockingly social, especially when compared to an introvert like myself and have comments ready for everything like the little smartass she is.

Eventually we’ve realized how happy she was, with how many loving people she is surrounded with, and just how insanely happy we’ve become since she came into our lives and enriched them. “So, lets get another!” my husband said one day, suffice to say I agreed immediately.

After a lot of discussion we have decided for adoption. Cindy entered our family when she was five and half years old, and this time we wanted to have a little baby in our home. A new challenge some might say :)

I will avoid going through all the hardships of paperwork and such details as that is not the subject I want to share here. I would like to share the moment we entered a ward and we heard a single baby crying, as it turned out it was a tiny little lady weighting at 8 pounds named Amanda. As I was told I immediately turned into a little girl myself as I kept jumping around and repeatedly saying “She’s sooo cuuute, so cuuuute. Oh my god just so cuute! I want to hold her! Can i hold her? Oh my god she’s soooooooooo cuuuuute!”. That was it, she was already in my heart.

We met her biological parents very short after. They were a very young couple which couldn’t afford taking care of Amanda and was against abortion. Their names are Christopher and Lucy, and as it turns out close friends of ours to this very day.

Now, taking in a little baby was suffice to say interesting. I feel like I am a champion of sleepless nights filled with cries, a living legend when it came to concern that Amanda might be feeling ill. As much as I thought I was prepared, I wasn’t. But eventually I became a master when it comes to changing diapers, preparing quick meals, jumping around whole house day and night just trying to get things down and take care of my three kids (John included). I was insanely tired, and double that happy with my life.

Chris and Lucy started visiting us often and spend quality time with Amanda, I’ve gotten a little bit (A LOT) worried that they might want her back but somehow I was reassured that was not the case. That’s when I realized that every parent just wants to be a part of their child’s life. When knowing how it would make me feel to have her disappear out of my life, how could I possibly be able to keep them away. So we saw each other often, and our friends and family kept on growing, and by that I mean we decided to adopt yet another one :)

When we met Ashley she was 10 months old, her parents didn’t want anything to do with her. Just literally didn’t care at all, it was a shocking experience knowing someone wouldn’t care about such little bundle of joy. Perhaps it especially upset me since I cannot even have a child of my own, I do not know. Ashley is our latest addition to the family, our little blue eyed angel has celebrated her first birthday recently. Cindy is acting like a big girl and takes good care about her little sisters.

We are now one huge happy family.

beard oilHi! It’s John, Jennifer asked me to share a little of the joy I feel about being a father raising three beautiful and amazing daughters.

There is an old saying that a woman’s first love is their father and it is their father who they compare every other man to.  Every day I strive to be the kind of man I would want my daughters to fall in love with.

I treat them like I treat my wife, with a lot of respect, understanding, and compassion.  I make all of their interests important to me, and I share all of my interests with them as well.

Cindy is starting to become interested in play make-up.  I let her do my make up on the weekends, of course I wash it off, but sitting there for 30 minutes while she puts it on is worth the final reveal in the mirror.  She always giggles like a maniac.  It is precious to me.

She also enjoys watching me take care of my facial hair and she tries to give me tips and tricks.  “Daddy, trim that bit.” “Daddy it’s too dry and scratchy.”  Luckily, I don’t get the second complaint too much unless I’m out of my favorite beard oil from Beardbrand.

Amanda has a ton of energy so I’ve introduced her to the wonderful world of sports.  We go outside and kick a soccer ball around, or practice hitting a wiffle ball with one of those over sized plastic bats. That girl could run forever, but she’s kept me in shape so that’s nice.

Amanda also loves to watch sports with me.  She is the Detroit Lion’s biggest little fan.  That girl can scream.  When it’s game time Cindy puts on her play makeup and cheer leading outfit and Amanda grabs her little jersey, Ashley snuggles on my lap, and we all have a great time together.

Ashley, the sweet baby of the bunch, just wants everyone to be happy.  I make sure to take my time when being with Ashley.  She is very low energy and can get frustrated easily, especially with the other two running around all of the time.

Ashley thinks of some of the sweetest things for people.  The other day I was coughing and in walked Ashley trying to hand me her sippy cup.  It was so kind.  Instead of my initial “No, thank you” reaction, I sucked it up and drank out of the sipply cup.

It wasn’t pleasant, kids get some disgusting food particles inside of those, but it wasn’t about me.  It was about respecting her kindness and showing her that her thoughtfulness had helped me.

The reason I am this way with the girls is because I want them to know that they are worth it.  They are worth everything in the world and what they have to say is important to me, and it needs to be important to their future partners as well. I love these three little girls with every ounce of my being.

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I know, I know, I live in the northern hemisphere and Christmas isn’t for another few months. But I couldn’t resist sharing a little story, I myself was reminded of recently by John. It was during one of our first Christmas’s with Cindy, back when our little family was a wee bit smaller. We had decided to spend Christmas weekend at Cindy’s grandparent’s home, and despite our close relationship to them this was no easy task. Trust me, when it comes to Christmas, I don’t leave anything to chance. The house is always strategically decorated for Fall so I only have to take down half the decorations to be ready for Christmas. The tree arrives on Thanksgiving – everything is planned out. Perhaps I leave the gifts for the end, but that tree never gets left up to chance.

As a child, Christmas was always a magical time for me. I woke up Christmas morning into a wonderland of my most treasured dreams, anything was possible. It was something I always wanted to keep alive in my own family. But as any trip to grandma and grandpa’s house will reveal to you, traditions are hard work.

Bottom-line: Cindy’s grandparents were not Christmas super-fans like myself. In fact, there wasn’t a single log in the fire, no mistletoe, not lights, and most devastating of all… there was no tree. Now, I am in no way chastising them or think it is wrong in any way to not decorate your house Grizwald-style, it was just such a foreign experience to me. Cindy was in tears at the lack of tree, and I nearly was too because, you see, to us the Christmas tree held more spirit and importance than Santa Claus. Even when I spent the holidays in Sydney, Australia, my parents were sure to at least have a tree for Christmas.

My parents called it, “The Magic Tree.” Every Christmas Eve night, I would stand beneath the tree and wish for everything I wanted as I placed my ornaments on its branches – the Christmas Tree Man, or Santa, would then deliver the gifts while I slept. There was something so amazing about those moments, that even as an adult I take part in the wishing; and as a mother it was something I knew I had to share with my girls.

I knew I had to do something. So I flipped through the yellow pages while John flipped through his phone. “I found something!” I remember hearing him say. To my disbelief, he had found a business called Christmas Tree Man. It was a miracle if I had ever seen one. Christmas Tree Man delivers and installs live Christmas trees into your own home. I knelt down and told Cindy that everything would be okay, that we would be getting a tree in time for Christmas Eve. Through her sniffles she asked, “Did my wish come true?”

I remember smiling, “Yes. The Christmas Tree Man is delivering it personally.” Cindy jumped into arms, full of joy. I remember right then and there, that I would do everything I had to if it meant putting a smile on my daughter’s face

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As a mother, sometimes I look at my little girls and wonder if I’m doing the best for them. In the world we live in today, everything is being automated and outsourced. It’s moving at such a fast pace that it’s worrying to think that what we’re teaching our kids today, may not be relevant to them as adults. It got me to thinking about some jobs that will always be in demand, and are likely to stand the test of time.

It is important, when thinking about educating your kids to focus on areas of leadership, innovation and creativity. This is one of the main reasons I ultimately decided to home-school my girls. Creativity is stamped out of kids minds at an early age. They’re not taught to think outside the box, they are taught to be “workers”, and to pass tests.

It’s also really difficult for young kids to learn to believe in themselves when they are faced with bullies everyday at school. This is something my own daughter struggled with and was one of my influences to home-school. So many kids have such poor self confidence that they never get a chance to express who they are and to be natural leaders.

So here are some careers that I believe will still be viable in 2034, 20 years from now:

1) Chef: This one is a no-brainer. There is no way we will be able to fully automate cooking. Even though they’re experimenting with 3D printing food, I just don’t think that will ever be able to replace the experience of eating a tastefully prepared meal from a talented chef. Food is both an art and a science, and there is a reason people still go out to restaurants to eat good food as opposed to buying everything in cans. This is one career that won’t ever be rendered obsolete.

2) Startup CEO: Leadership and motivation cannot be outsourced. In the future it is estimated that a lot of companies will be run by a much smaller staff, simply because there will be less of a need. If you train your kids to wait on a “job” they may never find it. The world is always open for new ideas. For example, Snapchat recently turned down a deal from Facebook for 3 billion dollars. They only had 20 employees! We have to teach our kids to be confident in themselves and their ideas, and also to follow through!

3) Fashion Designer: Fashion will never die. Fashion has been around ever since we donned our first loin cloth, and it will be here for thousands of decades to come. Fashion design requires creative input that cannot be replicated by any machine. While the manufacturing of garments is notoriously outsourced, the creative genius behind top designs are what keeps brands prestigious and keeps them afloat. It’s also this same genius that produces young designers flourishing on the scene each year.

4) Website Broker: The majority of corporations being expected to form in the future will be internet based. Tech Startups and even eCommerce websites all have a strong presence online. Both the selling and acquisition of these multimillion dollar internet based business will have to be negotiated and managed by a website broker. Check out more about what website brokers do here.

5) Stylist: Stylists and aestheticians will never be out of demand. Men and women will always want to feel beautiful and well groomed right? I know several stylists who are excellent at what they do and are successful business owners. There is something about the precise skill and dexterity required when shaving or styling someone’s hair that will never be able to be replicated by robots.

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Last week we went to the Jekyll Island and had just amazing time. It was also the first time any of our girls have seen the ocean, such vast amount of water. They couldn’t get over how much water there is :)

John was teaching Cindy how to swim while I was taking care of Amanda and Ashley. She was so scared but yet so brave, now that I think about it she was more scared entering the cold water then that her father will let go of her. She was a fast learner, swimming like a cute little puppy at first, moving her hands fast under water.
angrychildAs she was walking out of water she just stared at me. I was wondering why is my girl so upset? Have I done something? She continued to stare at me and just said “You promised me ice cream if I will be able to swim.” Oh how I laughed. That girl really loves her ice cream :)

So we got the ice cream, we walked on the beach, we talked. It was such a great experience to see how all our girls were happy, marveling at the world, and playing with sand. I live for moments like those.

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Well its this time of the year again. That very problematic time of the year if you have a huge family and lots of people coming for Christmas dinner. But a woman have to do her thing and cook, and prepare everything some would say.

Well not this woman, John is an excellent cook and my sister will be coming to help out as well. So hopefully everything will go well. The big question for me was what kind of presents will I get for my family.

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John loves all sorts of gadgets and Cindy is just like him. Amanda and Ashley are still very young, I guess I won’t have any problems there. My sister already told me she wants what she wants, Google Glass. Good luck with that huh? Rest of my family is surprisingly easy to shop for. Some like to read, others love clothes and so on. But what about gadgets, what kind of technology should I get to John since he already has everything I can think of. I could really use some ideas from my dearest readers.

He have a desktop pc, a laptop and a smartphone. Cindy have a sturdy little Nokia phone to ensure it doesn’t brake. Should I perhaps buy a new phone for John and give her his old one? Hmmm.. but his phone is only couple of months old. I suppose I am left with my thoughts. I still got a little bit of time! :)

What about the blog readers, are you guys looking forward to Christmas? What kind of things do you desire from your loved ones?

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As some of you may know for the last couple of months I’ve been a housewife which I am enjoying even though it can be very hard at times. Sometimes I want to get back to work so I can relax a little. hehe

Anyway in recent months we adopted Ashley and Amanda and we now just have a single income from John. Suffice to say we are cutting back on a lot of things. The first thing to go was Johns smoking habit, cheers for that! We also pretty much stopped going out, not that we have any time with this little devils around :)

babymoneyI am starting to feel a bit older, and very motherly. There’s so much responsibility taking care of three kids, managing budget, home schooling, arranging visits with their biological parents. All money that was going towards nights out, good wine, make up, hair salons and so on is now going straight into diapers. That’s right, money I was using just couple of months ago to shop for things I enjoy are now a device for collecting poop.

I was thinking for a while to get back to work, hire a nanny and send Cindy back to school. But I know she doesn’t like the idea and I love spending time with her, tutoring her, laughing, playing, arguing, taking care of her little sisters. She is so young and we are having a relationship like best friends :)

Well we are traveling less, spending less on ourselves, barely managing to keep up with the bills and we are very, very happy. I really do agree that money doesn’t buy happiness, its all about the people that surround you, the people you love.